It was a shock. Finding out she was pregnant while she had never had penetrative sex was strange.
Nicole Moore suffered from vaginismus, which is a condition that causes the vaginal wall muscles to involuntarily constrict.
This means that while she and her partner had tried to have sex, penetration just failed.
But their failed efforts didn't stop her partner's sperm and she became pregnant.
Because of her condition, Nicole couldn't insert a tampon, have a pap smear or have penetrative sex.
The 28-year-old told 7 News, “When I was 18 I got into a relationship with my daughter’s dad. We began trying to have sexual intercourse, he was a few years older and more experienced. We tried but it was impossible. I didn’t understand why it couldn’t happen.”
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“The only way I can describe it is like it felt like he was hitting a brick wall.
“I went back to the doctors who then gave me an examination but again told me everything was fine, and I was just extremely tight”, she added.
“One day at work I started getting terrible heartburn and sore breasts,” she said.
“I did a pregnancy test on my lunch break that day at work and it was positive. I couldn’t believe it, I was so shocked and confused. All I kept thinking was how on earth am I going to deliver this baby if I couldn’t even have intercourse.”
“I was worried my partner would think I’d cheated on him, as it seemed so impossible,” she said.
Nicole said that it was difficult to get medical professionals to believe her when she told them she had never had sex.
After seeking a second opinion it was confirmed that while rare, it was possible to get pregnant without having penetrative intercourse if the sexual activity introduced fluids to the vaginal area.
“I remember going for a check-up at the hospital and not being able to have an internal examination because the nurse couldn’t insert her finger. I tried explaining to her that I still hadn’t had sex and she said to me ‘don’t be ridiculous of course you have’.”
After finally receiving her diagnosis, Nicole was referred to a therapist who specialised in vaginismus and was able to teach her ways to help overcome the condition.
With this help, she was able to finally lose her virginity and have penetrative sex at five months pregnant.
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“With the help of the therapist, I began using dilators (a device used to stretch the vagina) and could see a light at the end of the tunnel,” she said.
“It wasn’t easy. The process was frustrating, stressful and upsetting, but I kept with it and was eventually able to have sex for the first time while pregnant."
