Dear Sis Dolly,
I’m a 35-year-old man and my girlfriend is 39.
We’ve been in a serious relationship for four years.
I love her and have never cheated, nor do I plan to. While I enjoy making love to her, she doesn’t enjoy it.
We have sex once every four to six weeks even though we’re together every weekend.
So, to avoid arguments and have her reject me, I masturbate in her presence.
This also makes her angry and she rejects me when I want us to have sex.
At first, I thought I wasn’t touching her the way she likes but she just rolls her eyes when I want to talk about it.
I don’t know what to do.
I love her a lot but I can’t take this any longer. – Frustrated
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Sis Dolly responds
It seems you’re the only one willing to work on improving your sex life.
Her reaction towards your desire to discuss the matter with her says she’s not interested.
I wonder if she’s still interested in being in the relationship.
This is her responsibility too; she should be meeting you halfway.
Shes hould be grateful she has someone who isn’t cheating at the first sign of trouble in paradise.
I suggest you go for couple counselling– perhaps she’ll open up so you can hearher side of the story. Call 0867-272-950 or visit www.mysexualhealth.co.za.
