Dear Sis Dolly,
I’m a 26-year-old woman dating a guy my age.
We’ve been in a relationship for three years and living together for 18 months.
He got a new job in Cape Town and left while I was looking for an internship.
He left his assets with me in our flat and one day his mother came and took all his stuff, leaving me with only the bed.
This was because I had cut all ties with her, as she was meddling in our relationship.
Now that we’re engaged, she suddenly wants us to move on like nothing ever happened.
I can’t forgive and forget.
My fiancé was cornered by her and his sisters after they heard about the engagement.
They talked and are fine now, but I am not.
I waited for an apology from her but it never came.
Am I heartless for not forgiving her? – Stressed
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Sis Dolly responds
No, you certainly aren’t heartless, only human.
The family treated you like you didn’t matter and they didn’t want you featuring in their son’s life.
Unfortunately for them, and fortunately for you, he stood by you.
Talk to your man about how you’re feeling.
Perhaps suggest a family meeting to discuss the issue so you can start with a clean slate.
Tread carefully and don’t be accusatory – remember she is his mother, after all.
