The female orgasm is one of the most talked about and researched areas of the sexual experience. However, reaching an orgasm seems to be impossible for many women even when they have a sensitive partner who knows how to pleasure them.
What really makes sex pleasurable for women is a partner who can hit the G and O spots to reach an orgasm so good it leaves you shaking, your knees weak and out of breath. So just how do you get the ultimate pleasure everytime you get down to it?
Sexual pleasure is all about reaching an orgasm. According to sex research done by William Masters and Virginia Johnson, “As you become more turned on, blood continues to flood the pelvic area, your breathing speeds up, heart rate increases, nipples become erect and the lower part of your private part narrows in order to grip your partner's private part while the upper part expands to give it someplace to go.”
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If all goes well, an incredible amount of nerve and muscle tension will build-up in your private part, pelvis, buttocks, and thighs until your body involuntarily releases it all at once in a series of intensely pleasurable waves commonly known as an orgasm.
THE CLITORIS IS QUEEN
A lot of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation. As long-term research by Elisabeth Lloyd suggests, only a quarter of women climax from intercourse. This makes the clitoris important for sexual pleasure.
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“Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm. They don’t get it during intercourse because the clitoris is located outside the private part. Intercourse simply does not provide enough direct clitoral stimulation to allow most women to become aroused enough to have orgasms,” she says.
The clitoris has 8 000 nerve endings and its only purpose is providing sexual pleasure either with masturbation or a partner.
OH LA LA!
There’s a new pleasure zone and it's called the O spot. It is situated far back in the private part behind the cervix (lower end of the uterus).
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Author Yvonne K. Fulbright of Touch Me There fame, says, “The anal walls are rich in nerve endings, so stimulating the O-spot gives a woman a better sense of what might feel good on the other side of the wall.”
Try this position: Your partner lies on his back with his feet stretched out while you get on top, facing him and stretching your feet out.
G IS FOR G-SPOT
The G-spot gets its name from German scientist, Ernst Gräfenberg, who reported in the 1950s that he had discovered a particular sensitive spot inside the woman's private part. Further work by Italian researchers in 2002 suggested that the G-spot is a pleasure zone as it has sensitive nerves along the inner wall of the vagina.
Find it: Don’t jump right in as you need to be in the mood and aroused. Once you are, insert two fingers, with the palm facing up. The rough feeling patch about 5cm in the private part, is the G-spot. Try these positions: The doggy style, woman on top and modified doggy style, which is when he enters you from behind while you lie on your stomach and he lies on top of you.