Makhwapheni – Cheating hubby wants to marry me!


Dear MizzB 

I have been in a relationship with a married man for 3 years.

He has been good to me and takes good care of me. His wife can’t have kids and he asked me to have a child with him.

I agreed as he promised to keep things between us. Now that I am pregnant, he has told the wife about me and even sent his uncles to my home for lobola negotiations.

How do I create a good relationship between me and the first wife?

 Dear Sistas

Relationships come naturally and don’t need to be forced. Unfortunately you are not in control of how the wife reacts or behaves towards you. All you need to do is to focus on your child and partner and give her space.

It is not easy accommodating someone else into your marriage or relationship. Do not force yourself on her but rather avoid being in her way to avoid unnecessary conflicts and being uncomfortable.

Let your partner handle the communication since he is the one who introduced polygamy. All the best!

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