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THERE’S no single formula for the

perfect relationship, right?

But there are a few things that, if you get them right, might lead you to where others fail.

While finding yourself in the perfect relationship is not for everyone, research has come up with trends that could well see you achieving this elusive dream.

The dream of a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship with your loved one is – surprise, surprise – attainable! Just simple common sense and no magic at all.

While some of these trends might be things you already know, another reminder wouldn’t hurt., Stay Positive

The more positive you are the more likely you’ll be happy in your relationship.

Research done by the University of Chicago found that when a husband has a high level of positivity, there’s less conflict in his relationship. Likewise, the way partners respond to each other’s good news matters too. In a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,researchers found the way couples react to each other’s good news, either with excitement, pride or indifference, is crucial in forming a strong bond. , 

Communicating correctly

Conflicts about money feature in many studies and all can be blamed on poor communication. Making financial decisions without communicating with your partner is a quick way to end a perfect relationship. 

Try new things constantly and often

It’s easy to get stuck in a routine and form habits. That’s when boredom sets in. Read more novels, relationship stories in media or watch love shows on TV to see what other couples do to keep the fire burning. , 

Sex, sex and more sex

Studies have shown that couples who have more sex – two to three times a week – are happier in their relationship. This includes talking openly about sex with your partner and being comfortable to share what makes you happy.

But Dr Eve said a relationship without sex could mean partners get a chance to bond in other ways such as talking and caring for each other.

“To some people it might mean trouble in paradise leading to ‘you don’t love me any more’ or ‘you don’t find me attractive’,” she said.

Many have lost their love because talking about sex or their fantasies is a taboo., Share and don’t be selfish

Most men shy away from house chores and think the woman has to do everything. But couples who do things together stay together longer. Expecting your partner to cook, wash, clean the house and do groceries all by herself is a recipe for disaster.

You also learn about a person’s likes and dislikes when you do “ordinary” stuff with him/her.

Dr Eve said couples need to keep pushing boundaries, especially on special occasions, to please each other.

“Communication leads to opening new ways of pleasing your partner and yourself! Talking also creates a safer environment and deeper intimacy and connection,” she said.