Palesa writes:
Hi Khanyi, I’m 19 and was raised by my grandmother
after I lost both parents when I was nine. Even though my grandmother was there for us, she didn’t really have the
energy to look after myself and my three younger brothers. So basically, I’ve been a parent since the age of nine. Now, I want to get married to a man I met at work. He’s 43 and treats me very well. He’s wonderful to me and helps me look after my younger brothers financially as well, since my grandmother has very little money. My family is now very upset with me wanting to marry this guy. I do love him and how else am I going to get my brothers through school? What should I do, Khanyi?
RAPUNZEL’S PRINCE FINALLY SAVES HER from the tower and rescues her from all loneliness and sadness . . . if only life was a fairy tale!
Love is beautiful, but love is also long-lasting and very real. Never give your soul away with an ulterior motive or do anything for anybody in the hope of making them happy. Happiness lives within you.
Your family can’t choose for you, they can only guide and support you. If it’s pure innocent love and not just an opportunity, then I don’t see why you and your family can’t be happy.
Follow your heart. KEEP IT! Our parents have had their lives, they should let us explore.
Poor man writes:
Dear Khanyi, what’s happening to our young ladies? They all seem to go after a guy for his money only! Where can I find a girl who’s not obsessed with what car I drive or what shoes I can buy her? Where?!
SAD, HEY! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN, where are all the genuine loving people? On the other hand we live in a time when people want stability. Don’t lose heart, love is like building Rome. When the time’s right, you’ll find the right girl.
Loving Lulu writes:
Hi there Khanyi, I have a really embarrassing problem. I always thought each and every black man is supposed to have a big 4-5. But mine’s not big at all! And I’m convinced that my previous girlfriend left me because of this.
I don’t have the kind of money it takes to pay for an operation to enlarge my love organ. But I’ve read these ads in the papers placed by sangomas who promise to make it bigger without surgery. Should I go to one or should I start saving for an operation? Help!
MY DEAR BROTHER! You should never physically put yourself under pressure. You need not change! And I don’t believe for one minute God would create you as you are and not have a plan for you. Yes, sex is important, but a woman who loves you will love you as you are. KEEP IT!
