Hey MizzB

I’M 21 years old and my boyfriend has been trying to get me pregnant since we got back together.  

Before we broke up he used to preach the importance of condoms and he insisted we use them.  

Since getting back together he refuses to use them and during sex he tells me he wants a child.  

The problem is that I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with him. I recently had an abortion, but now I’m having nightmares of a crying baby.  

Please help me! 

- Girl 

Hey Girl

It takes a lot of courage for a woman to make a decision to terminate an unwanted pregnancy. 

However, the weight of the decision can be emotionally taxing when you don’t get counselling to help you cope with the aftermath of your decision. 

It’s important to also note that continuing to have unprotected sex leaves you vulnerable to another pregnancy and heightens your risk of getting STIs and HIV. 

Physically, you can also protect yourself by taking PrEP and contraceptives daily to prevent unwanted pregnancies and being infected with HIV. 

Being with someone you don’t see yourself spending your life with can cheat you out of finding your happiness and enjoying the life you want. You’ll constantly compromise yourself to make the other person happy. 


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