Dear MizzB

I’m a 23-year-old married woman with two kids.

My husband is abusing me. He kicks and punches me in front of our kids.

Last weekend he brought a woman home. He removed me from our bedroom and slept with her in there.

I had to sleep in the kids’ room.

I’m scared to tell my family about this. I don’t want to embarrass them by returning home. He paid lobola for me.

  • Lady

Dear Lady

Silence empowers abuse and lobola doesn’t give your man the right to abuse you.

When you cover up and make excuses for someone who’s abusing you, this leads to more pain for you and your children.

Children become what they live. The longer you let this happen, the more you plant abusive traits in your children.

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