Lobola used to combine two families, but these days it’s no longer the same.
Families now charge exorbitant prices in the name of this age-old customary rite.
People now expect R80 000 for lobola.
They claim their daughter went to expensive schools and universities.
In the past, lobola was paid in the form of cattle. This has changed, thanks to the new times we’re living in.
And due to the high amounts families ask for, couples now opt for cohabitation.
There have been instances when couples couldn’t be together because the potential groom couldn’t afford to pay the set amount.
We shouldn’t use lobola as a money-making scheme. Young couples end up in debt after getting married.
Those who charge high amounts for their daughters reduce them to objects on sale.
This also robs young couples of a chance to raise their children together and make collective decisions. Lobola is fast losing its meaning.
- Norman Maake, Tembisa
- True, Norman. Lobola is not a bonus or get-rich-quick scheme. It’s a practice meant to unite two families, not make one poorer.
And, as you point out, marriage won’t start well when a woman is objectified – to a point where her man believes he owns her.
That’s because he feels he bought her. This letter wins R200 today. Call Nthabiseng at our offices to collect. – Deputy Editor