Hey MizzB 

I AM 24-year-old and dating a great guy with whom I have a daughter.  

When I was a child I was sexually abused by my stepfather. I was also physically and verbally abused by my mkhulu, whom I later discovered was actually my biological father. I’m quick to lose my temper with my man and child. I don’t want to be an angry person anymore. Please help! 

- Girl 

Hey Girl

You had a traumatic childhood and it’s natural that you have built a defence system to prevent what happened in the past.

Sexual abuse is a gross violation and it can affect your ability to give and receive love in a healthy manner.

Get professional help so you can forgive yourself and learn new skills.

This will enable you to be the woman you deserve to be for yourself and your loved ones. 


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