Being a single parent can take its toll, no matter whether it’s a mum or a dad going it alone.
What can make being a single parent even tougher is when you’re raising a child with a different gender to yours.
So read on for some tips for single dads raising daughters.
Don't do it alone
Single dads are sometimes made to feel guilty for not providing their daughter with a replacement mum. But although fathers shouldn’t feel pressured into a new relationship because of the child, it is important for the daughter to have a female mentor in her life. It can be a grandmother, aunt or other family member, or even a church leader or coach at school. This older woman is going to be a crucial building block of your daughter’s understanding of what it means to be a woman, so a strong, capable female in her life is important.
Communicate
Many men tend to take a "I must fix it" approach in their lives and their relationships. They listen long enough to identify the problem, and then they’re off solving it.
But daughters usually don't want you to fix their issues. They want you to listen to them with understanding and let them figure out their own solutions.
The important thing is always to keep the lines of communications open.
Teach her to solve problems
Like all kids, daughters need to be taught problem-solving skills. Sitting with her and helping her think through an issue, showing her alternatives views and possible conclusions, will serve her well throughout her life.
Be involved in her life
It is generally easier for dads to be involved with their sons' lives than with their daughter's. But as a single dad, your daughter needs to feel your support. Attend her athletic contests, just like you would with your sons. Take her shopping occasionally – and don’t be impatient when she wants to look around! Be around the house when she has her friends around. Make opportunities to be together, and your relationship will grow.
What about dating and guys?
Helping your daughter through the transition from childhood to becoming a young woman can be a single dad's greatest challenge. Successful fathers suggest being up front and honest about these issues. Help her understand why you are little nervous about her developing relationships with guys. Help her understand what is happening to her body and emotions as the hormones kick in. And accept that some things will just be awkward.
Relying on your trusted female mentor for some of these issues will be very helpful.
Get support
It can be really useful sharing your hopes and fears with others in the same boat as you. Search online for support groups for single dads, and you may get the advice and comfort you’re needing.
As hard as it may be at times, it can be done. If you’re sensitive to your daughter and invest time in your relationship with her, you'll find lasting satisfaction in having raised a great woman.
