MY LOVE INTEREST WON’T NOTICE ME writes:
Hi Khanyi, I’m 25 and recently started working at a call centre. I love the environment because there’s always a vibe and lots of people to chat to during breaks in the tea room. My problem is I really like this one guy who manages one of the teams, but he seems to be interested in the more senior level girls only. How can I become a manager quick so he’ll respect me and notice me?
OOH GIRL! TELL ME THIS MAN IS A HUNK! A man will only notice something different and unique. I wouldn’t advise you to become a manager to try and impress him or get his attention. Find the confidence to greet him, introduce yourself, and then walk away.
Then trust that you’ve planted a seed in his mind and that he’ll wonder who you are. So if you’re sure you really want this guy, start the conversation and stop wishing.
KEEP IT! Go get your man, girl!
OUR SEX LIFE IS NO LONGER THE SAME writes:
Hi Khanyi, my boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. We’ve always had a wonderful time in the bedroom, but lately he’s struggling to keep up with me. It’s almost as if he’s lost interest. Is it me or is it him? I really make an effort to be sexy and groomed, but he almost looks a bit scared when I start smooching him. Help!
COMMUNICATION IS THE ONLY SOLUTION TO THIS PROBLEM. At times men get stressed or have a lot on their minds, which causes stress in their bodies as well and they sexually disconnect. You need to make him aware of how you feel about your sex life as he is your partner. Believe me, after you’ve spoken to him, you may find he wasn’t even aware of how sad this made you.
KEEP IT! Straight talk is the best remedy.
I FOUND OUT MY GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN TO PRISON! writes:
Dear Khanyi, I’m so shocked! My girlfriend and I have been dating for about six months now and it’s been going well. She has a very sweet little boy of three and he’s accepted me already.
I’m starting to see this relationship as one with a lot of potential. We even went to meet her family this past weekend. But you won’t believe what happened! Her cousin told me she’s been to prison! For assault! I don’t want a violent girlfriend or one with a dark past, Khanyi, what must I do?
BABE, WE ALL HAVE A DARK, SHADY PAST. A woman’s character is shaped by all the experiences she’s been through.
Speak to her, make her aware that her criminal record makes you uneasy and you want assurance that she’s no longer that person. Don’t forget to tell her you love her – this will help her open up.
KEEP IT! And just be honest.