HE STARTED ACTING UP WHEN I TOLD HIM I AM NOT READY TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY writes:
Hello Khanyi! I was dating – maybe I still am – but we haven’t been talking for weeks now, so I’m not really sure where we stand. The guy made it clear he only wanted to have sex with me. That was after I told him I’m still sexually pure and not ready as yet. He then started acting up. What should I do – move on? I wish I could find a guy who would be proud of me for keeping my virtue intact.
HUN, CONGRATULATIONS FOR KEEPING YOUR PURITY in these tough and demanding times. A woman like myself can only admire your strength and discipline. You deserve a man who loves you, understands you and appreciates all that you represent. If this guy’s anger is based on you wanting to hold on to your purity – he doesn’t deserve you. His love is not patient and understanding. KICK IT!
IS AGE REALLY NOTHING BUT A NUMBER? writes:
Hi, Khanyi. I’m 25 years old and my girlfriend is 24 this year. We’ve been together for almost five years, but I’m not sure if age will be a factor in the near future. I sometimes think that having a woman who is five years younger than me will be an advantage going forward.
WHAT DETERMINES HEALTH IN A RELATIONSHIP IS UNDERSTANDING, respect and happiness. If you are worried about her aging before you do – as women do age quickly – start living a healthy and physically fit life together and she will look good in the future.
There is no need to find another woman because you fear her turning into a granny. Partners need to encourage and support each other in everything they do and dream about.
So KEEP IT! Just join the gym.
LONG-DISTANCE LOVER BREAKS MY HEART writes:
Khanyi, I’m dating a guy who is two years younger than me and we’re in a long-distance relationship. Every time I try communicating with him he always says he’s busy and hangs up on me. Then when I ask him whether he needs some space he tells me that he can’t stand to be away from me. He claims to love and care for me, but all he does is break my heart. I really love him, but sometimes feel rejected.
ANY MAN THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LESS OF A WOMAN IS NOT WORTH IT. Communicate how you feel, but if he fails to understand this, that’s a sure sign that he’s begging to hit the road.
Love is patient and understanding. No one is busy 24/7. When someone loves you, they want to see and be with you.
If you’re making excuses for him, that’s a sure sign of a union which is in trouble. Tell him how you feel, babe.