HOW DO I TELL HER TO LOSE WEIGHT WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS? writes:
Khanyi, my wife has gained a lot of weight since we’ve been married. When I first met her she was beautiful, but now I don’t find myself sexually attracted to her any more. How can I tell her she needs to lose weight without hurting her feelings?
THE COMFORTS OF LOVE CAN SUFFOCATE THE VERY LOVE PEOPLE SHARE. I know how you feel, but the solution to this is simple.
Communication and straight talk has never broken up any relationship. Start by sending her pictures of herself in her real state and reminisce about the good old days and how much fun they were, then suggest how you would like to reignite that lost flame. That should get her excited and eager to lose weight. KEEP IT!
I THINK MY SISTER SECRETLY WANTS MY BOYFRIEND writes:
My boyfriend flirts with my sister. He calls her names like “sweetie” and “babe” in front of me. Sometimes she’ll flirt back. I’ve asked her not to pay attention to him but I think she secretly wants him – but not as a boyfriend. She always tells me he’s a bum and is lazy.
I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for three months, but it feels like he’s only with me to see her. Should I keep him or kick him out?
GIRL, THREE MONTHS IS LONG ENOUGH TO KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO COMMIT TO. If he’s already making you insecure, and worse, about your own family, you need to lose him! He is a loser! Never ignore the signs, girl! Your sixth sense never lies.
KICK IT! There are plenty more fish in the sea!
MY CATS OR MY NEW MAN? writes:
I’m a girl who loves cats. I have two and want to get another one. A few weeks ago I met a guy and we’ve been on a few dates so far. I asked him over to my flat for dinner for our most recent date.
When he got there and saw the cats he went into a panic. I got very scared. I had to put them away in a room but with every sound they made, he jumped. I’m worried that I’ve met the man of my dreams but will have to give up my love of cats to be with him.
Is there a way I can make it work without losing my pets?
LOVE COMES WITH COMPROMISES. You need to ask him how he feels about pets.
Does he like any animals? Is he freaked out by cats only, or by dogs, hamsters and budgies too? Also ask him whether he likes children or not.
From that you will be able to tell who he really is. If it’s true love, you won’t find it difficult to make some sacrifices for him or alternatively, just get a place with a garden where your pets can stay outside. KEEP IT! Just communicate!